Count to Fifteen

Count to Fifteen

One of the most useful things I ever learned is that, when I ask a class of trainees a question, the time it takes them to think of their answers seems longer to me then it does to them. Even if my question is, “Any questions?” it can take up to fifteen seconds for...
Mind Power & Word Power, Part II

Mind Power & Word Power, Part II

Last time, I wrote that Counterclockwise—Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility by Ellen J. Langer reinforced my belief that the words we think, speak and write can become self-fulfilling prophecies. [If you have not yet read that last post, please do so now.]...
Mind Power & Word Power, Part I

Mind Power & Word Power, Part I

Once in awhile, I discover a book I want everyone I care about to read. Counterclockwise: Mindful Health and the Power of Possibility by Ellen J. Langer not only changed my ideas about health and aging, but inspired me to broader applications in the areas of influence...
Define Your Terms, Eliminate Conflict

Define Your Terms, Eliminate Conflict

People often believe they disagree when, in fact, they only interpret a word or phrase in different ways. If they clarify their interpretations, the “disagreement” disappears. A party to a lawsuit might puff up his chest and declare he’ll never settle if, in his mind,...
Doing the Math of Bridges Across Politics

Doing the Math of Bridges Across Politics

Some people categorically refuse to discuss politics and religion. They call this a “rule.” It’s a good general practice for purely social occasions. But like most rules, it has exceptions, and the exceptions increase in troubled times. In grade school, I learned that...