Use the Right Dictionary

Use the Right Dictionary

People often describe good communication as “getting on the same page,” but sometimes we aren’t even using the same dictionary. Many terms have one meaning in the common vernacular, but a very different scientific or medical meaning. This leads to miscommunicating and...
Seeing (Communication Skill) Is Believing

Seeing (Communication Skill) Is Believing

Scientists tell us that solid planets form when tiny particles attract each other by means of their own gravity and stick together in a process known as accretion. I believed it, but it was difficult for me to imagine it happening. A few days ago, I washed a dark blue...
New Findings about (Un)Happiness

New Findings about (Un)Happiness

You’ll remember the series on happiness I posted a while back.[1] A key concept was that we attract what we focus on. So, for example, if you don’t want to be late for work, turn off the, ”Hurry! Don’t be late” head talk and substitute, “I’m on time.” New...
Learn from Downton Abbey’s Lady Mary and Henry

Learn from Downton Abbey’s Lady Mary and Henry

Last time I wrote about Isobel and Violet building a friendship despite differences of opinion. But Mary and Henry show us what not to do. The two are mutually attracted, passionately so. Yet Mary insists that they “aren’t right” for each other. She overrides her own...
Learn from Downton Abbey’s Violet and Isobel

Learn from Downton Abbey’s Violet and Isobel

Our local PBS station recently re-aired all six seasons of Downton Abbey during a pledge drive. I’ve enjoyed them, but as a consensus trainer and author, I also had professional reasons to watch. I wanted to follow the development of the friendship between...
Desktop Optimism

Desktop Optimism

A positive attitude earns you many rewards, from better negotiation results to better health. People often have “good luck” because they’re optimistic. In one experiment, subjects were instructed to walk a particular route to a coffee shop. Some money was placed in...