The Company We Keep, Then and Now, Pro and Con

The Company We Keep, Then and Now, Pro and Con

I’ve been re-reading some favorite Jane Austen novels and re-watching the corresponding movies and TV shows, reflecting on how few options for socialization people had in those days, especially outside of large cities. No phone, no texting, constraints of both time...
Your Brain on Mixed Messages

Your Brain on Mixed Messages

Experts in “the dark arts of persuasion,” such as marketers, cult leaders and political entities, know how to trigger auto pilot reactions from us. But some auto pilot reactions happen without others’ interference. [To read more about 3rd party interference, enter...
My Apt. Managers Get Creative

My Apt. Managers Get Creative

I love true stories about people creating ways to address the interests of both sides of an issue, for this skill lies at the heart of the consensus-building system I teach. I live in a large apartment community—over 400 units. We’ve had a dilemma here. The umbrella...
Surprised by the Dalai Lama

Surprised by the Dalai Lama

Never underestimate the value of a positive attitude when seeking consensus or attempting to persuade others. You want to be calm, relaxed, and even joyful. Awhile back, I began reading and posting about The Book of Joy by the Dalai Lama, Archbishop Tutu and Douglas...
Keeping Up with News while Staying Sane

Keeping Up with News while Staying Sane

In previous posts in this series on news, I’ve promised ideas on staying reasonably informed while also looking after your own wellbeing. Here are some things that help me. I hope you, too, find them useful. Stay Clear on Your Interests From my work on consensus...