Fear v. Consensus Skill

Fear v. Consensus Skill

Yoda was right, “Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” Fear and anger can also lead to poor decisions, including those we make when we are trying to build consensus out of some type of difference or disagreement.  This is why, in Bridges...
Easing the Challenge of Change

Easing the Challenge of Change

Lately I’ve been re-reading The 100 Simple Secrets of Successful People by David Niven, Ph.D.  Each “secret” is about two pages long and includes a brief exposition of a principle, a real life example, and a statistic backing up the point.  I read only one secret each...
Advice from a Thug?

Advice from a Thug?

In Bridges to Consensus—in Congregations, I write about the fact that people resist when we make them wrong, i.e. when we tell them that their actions are wrong, when we contradict their beliefs or opinions, or even when we silently raise an eyebrow or roll our eyes...