Contagious Kindness

Contagious Kindness

[W]e know that it isn’t selfish to be kind to ourselves. As I’ve written before, it’s like being on a plane when the oxygen masks drop. You put on your own mask first. You can’t help your seatmate if you’re unconscious…Lately, however, I’ve been more than kind to myself. I have indulged myself…But I’ve come to see that what I did for myself enabled me to do an even better job at kindness.

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My Interview by Catherine Onyemelukwe

My Interview by Catherine Onyemelukwe

I recently had the honor of being interviewed by author & activist Catherine Onyemelukwe. We talked about my professional journey, my current work, and especially about my book, Love on the Rocks with a Twist…Catherine has published the interview on her own blog. You can read it all at once, or better, in segments along with Catherine’s other fascinating topics.

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Humor Improves Persuasive Communication Skills

Humor Improves Persuasive Communication Skills

Skillful, bridge-building communication wants a cool head and a relaxed body. Worry and tension work against you… Lately, I’ve been finding plenty to worry and tense about. Laughter has been my tonic. I bet you all could use a few humor breaks as well… Have a funny weekend!

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Spring Cleaning Your Language

Spring Cleaning Your Language

Back in the day, spring was a time to thoroughly clean one’s house, doing things we don’t do routinely, like washing windows, cleaning pantry shelves, dusting baseboards, or clearing out the fridge…I suggest we clean up our language—whether spoken or head talk. I don’t mean banning four letter words, but rather, changing self-defeating terms to empowering terms.

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The Second Magic Question

The Second Magic Question

I’ve written a lot about the First Magic Question, “Why?” in my books Bridges to Consensus and Love on the Rocks with a Twist  and in this blog. I’ve also written quite a bit about the Third Magic Question, “How do we want to feel?” I write least about The Second Magic Question, but it’s a wonderful question, “What else do we want?”

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Planting Seeds on Common Ground

Planting Seeds on Common Ground

When you find an interest that both parties share, that’s a gift, a gift of common ground, a great place to begin discussion. And when you do, follow the Silver Rule…
A real life example: When the “bathroom bill” was in committee in the Texas Senate, I heard an idea that would interest both Democrats and Republicans. I phoned the committee members’ offices.

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