Define Your Terms, Eliminate Conflict

Define Your Terms, Eliminate Conflict

Awhile back, one of your fellow blog followers sent me an article entitled “How to Stay Sane If Trump Is Driving You Insane: Advice from a Therapist” by Robin Chancer. After a few sentences, I thought, Wow. This disputes some of my primary beliefs…But on rereading, I noticed different interpretations.

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Doing the Math of Bridges Across Politics

Doing the Math of Bridges Across Politics

As a communication trainer and consultant, I want to believe that anyone can learn to discuss politics in a civilized manner if we give them enough time, if we start with one tortoise step, then, proceed very slowly. But do we have that time to give? With the seriousness of current political issues, time becomes more significant. We should consider how long it’s likely to take to achieve civil, reflective interaction with a given individual and adjust our efforts accordingly.

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Tips from My Trainees

Tips from My Trainees

I love it when my trainees not only learn, but also contribute to others’ learning. In a recent training course, several participants made great suggestions for clarifying email…You’ll be amazed at how much better you like your written communications and how much better others understand them.

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Politics and The Law of Attraction, Part II

Politics and The Law of Attraction, Part II

So if you want to see some science behind the Law of Attraction, there you have it. Scientifically designed studies at Harvard, plus a wealth of practical experience by people like me, my clients and trainees, show that gratuitous wrong making (negative focus) knocks the legs out from under any efforts to change people’s minds—about politics or anything else.

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Politics and the Law of Attraction, Part I

Politics and the Law of Attraction, Part I

I wondered how to keep my financial consultant reading this article beyond the words “The Secret”…”Happily, I found that a Unitarian Universalist minister, Rev. Fred Small, had already done it for me…He writes, “I don’t want to deny or flee the negative, but I need not build my house on its sinkhole.”

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