A Gift of Poetry for You

A Gift of Poetry for You

The bulk of my book “Love on the Rocks with a Twist” features short stories, each followed by study notes on the characters’ interactional skills–what they did well and how they could have done better. There are two exceptions. The introductory essay, “What’s the Twist,” and the poem “Dinner Date.” As my holiday gift to you my readers, I offer “Dinner Date” and it’s study notes in their entirety here

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Reflections on Gratitude

Reflections on Gratitude

At this heart-warming time of year, I offer a selection of quotations on gratitude and Thanksgiving…Which of these speak to you? “There shall be/ Eternal summer in the grateful heart.”

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The Company We Keep, Then and Now, Pro and Con

The Company We Keep, Then and Now, Pro and Con

I’ve been re-reading some favorite Jane Austen novels, reflecting on how few options for socialization people had in those days, especially outside of large cities. No phone, no texting, constraints of both time and etiquette on writing letters. One had to mingle with whoever lived nearby to have any significant social life…But every coin has another side.

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Your Brain on Mixed Messages

Your Brain on Mixed Messages

The human brain evolved to view others as either good (green light) or bad (red light). This helped prehistoric humans survive. Will Jojo help me fight off the saber-toothed cat or throw me to the cat while he escapes? They had to decide instantly. So it helped to pre-classify others. The brain is uncomfortable with mixed messages or “cognitive dissonance.” If a “good” person hurts us, we may reclassify them as bad, or vice versa.

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My Apt. Managers Get Creative

My Apt. Managers Get Creative

I love true stories about people creating ways to address the interests of both sides of an issue, for this skill lies at the heart of the consensus-building system I teach. I live in a large apartment community—over 400 units. We’ve had a dilemma here. The umbrella corporation does not allow tenants to solicit sales or donations from other tenants.
So, for example…

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